Feeling confident in your bikini is something all women go through at some point. Prancing around in a bathing suit – a bikini, no less – can be pretty intimidating, especially in front of others at the pool or beach. Who wouldn’t feel self-conscious?
But one of the main topics I want to speak about on my blog is about inner beauty and self-confidence, so I think this is an important topic to talk about.
One of my biggest insecurities growing up was wearing a swimsuit on vacation, and it was only at 17 that I dared – and boy is life so much more fun when you just don’t care! I already talked about how to start building self-esteem, so this time I am gonna share some of the lessons I’ve learnt in bikini body confidence, so this summer you can quit hiding behind the beach towel and have fun.
That Old Cliché
Let me start off by saying the greatest cliché known to man: nobody is perfect. It’s been said to death because it is true: NOBODY is perfect.
And if you think models or celebrities are, I can tell you that they aren’t perfect either. As I mentioned in What Goes Behind That Image, we’d all look like that with hours of professional hair and makeup artists, stylists, the right lightning and Photoshop.
We all come in different shapes and sizes. It’s the differences that make us unique, so we shouldn’t obsess about them! Why waste your time? Looking at your body in the mirror and analyzing each part you hate is not doing any good.
Instead of looking at your “big arms”, I encourage you to reset your way of thinking and instead be thankful you actually have two full-functioning arms. Be thankful that you have a healthy body and drill it into your head that nobody is perfect. There is so much more important things to worry about in the world than your jiggly butt on the beach. (Plus, everyone has a jiggly butt.)
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The Big Secret
I can remember when I was 13 and in beautiful Costa Del Sol, Spain. I would go to the beach every day, and I never went into the water.
Why? Because I was so self-conscious of my body. In school I was teased for being so tall and “boney”, I was certain that everyone would stare. And there were boys there! What would they think?
Now I am kicking myself because the beach was so beautiful. And honestly, how many times does one get the opportunity to go to Spain?
I missed the opportunity to go and really enjoy myself because I cared what strangers thought of me. I mean, it’s not like I knew any of them, or will ever see them again! So really… think about it. Why care what others think? Why are stranger’s opinions having any impact on you?
And here’s The Big Secret: not everyone is looking at you. It’s all in your head. Really, I share my own experience later on in this post, but seriously, not everyone is looking at you.
Thou Shall Not Covet
I once read a fitness “tip” in a magazine where they suggested to hang a picture of someone’s body you want, so that you would be motivated to keep working out to reach your goal for swimsuit season. It made me so angry.
And guess who are the most coveted bodies? Victoria Secret models. OK. First of all, we all know that images in the media are airbrushed – every single one of them – so hanging up pictures of hot girls in bikinis is a goal you will never reach… they don’t even look like that!
Another thing to realize is that celebrities have hairstylists, makeup artists, personal trainers and dieticians at their fingertips. If we all had a personal style team, we’d all look like supermodels. And that would be so boring, no?
Imagine a world where everyone looked like a supermodel! BORING! So do not even compare yourself to the bikini bodies of models and celebrities in magazine.
Comparing your body with others is a lost cause because everyone is made different.
You can do as many lunges as you want, your bum will not look like JLo’s… and that’s OK. Work on your self-esteem and know that you are worthy and beautiful just the way you are. And drill it in your head that everyone is different – and it’s all beautiful. See above – all different celebrities, all different body types. All beautiful!
It’s much easier to feel confident about your body in a bikini when you know you’ve taken care of it.
Filling your belly with junk food will only make you feel worse and more self-conscious. So eat healthy; but not just for your body, but also for your health. Of course, indulge once in awhile, but always remember to fill your body with vitamins and minerals. Exercise will also make you feel body confident. Even a 20 minute walk with your dog around your neighborhood is good enough. Honor, respect and treat your body and yourself.
…Or should I say, another reason to shop?! Heh. Go shopping and find a bathing suit that you love that flatters your body. Find a super cute one that will make you feel confident in your bikini. Look good, feel good, right?
If you really need to, to help you ease into wearing and feeling confident in a bikini, maybe buy a cute little shirt or one that has a mini skirt at the bottom for a bit more coverage.
Whether you’re at the beach or by the pool, have fun! You are only young once. The secret to being confident is to have fun. When you’re happy and having a ball, the last thing on your mind is, “Can they see my cellulite? Does my butt look big in this suit?”
So get out there and play beach volleyball, eat ice cream, read a book or take a dip in the ocean. We are healthy and alive, and so blessed to be able to go to the beach, so have fun and enjoy the moment!
One step for man, one giant leap…
“Just do it.” “Practice makes perfect.” “Fake it ’til you make it!”
Again, all clichés that hold some truth. I was 16 when I bought my first bikini, and was 17 when I actually dared to wear it, at the beach in Thailand. Not gonna lie – it was horrible. I felt weird, overexposed and awkward. But I knew I had to overcome this.
At this point, I already had tons of love for my body, but those feelings of being in a swimsuit in front of others still plagued me. But I forced myself. And guess what? I noticed that everyone was doing their own thing on the beach.
Yeah, some people looked, but it wasn’t like they bent over and hurled at the sight of me. I remember a few people acknowledged me, smiled and then left me alone. No one cared – people were getting on with their holiday. I couldn’t believe it. All those years of creating those stupid scenarios in my head of what people might do seemed so ridiculous at that point.
After that holiday, I had completely let go of my insecurities of wearing a bathing suit in public. In fact, now, I’m usually the first one in my bikini!
Honestly, you just gotta have the courage to get out there a few times! Force yourself, and after 3 times, you won’t even think about it – I know you can do it. It’s always hard the first time, but you have to – and it will get easier, and I promise you will feel confident in your bikini.
Now, I’d love to know:
- Did you (do you?) feel self-conscious when wearing a bikini in public?
- How do you feel confident in your bikini?
- Any other thoughts on bikini-body confidence to add? I’d love to hear.